What does it mean to be post-gay?

I’m missing the Pride festivities this year.   I’ll be in Mykonos, Greece, having a more private Pride celebration—my 10th anniversary with my partner—along with close friends and family.

Last year’s Pride month had me thinking about growing older in the Gay community. This year, I’m stuck on the concept of “the post-gay generation,” which has gotten some chatter lately.

It’s come up through reactions to the Broadway revival of Larry Kramer’s 1980s AIDS saga The Normal Heart, or—more to the point—the revival of Kramer calling out the younger generation as “tragic” and “apathetic.” Then, there was the responding, angry “Open Letter to Larry Kramer” by J. Ricky Price from the youngish queer media site TheNewGay.net.

To be precise, Kramer and Price don’t use the term post-gay generation per se in their interviews or letters, but the issues and questions surrounding this new identity are evident through their exchange.

Are Gen Y-gays unappreciative of the extraordinary work their forebears accomplished to make life better for them?

Do Baby Boomer-gays place too much emphasis on sexual identity and politics, to the exclusion of the many interesting facets of being an individual?

Is it necessary to identify as gay, at all times, first and foremost, to push the civil rights movement along?

Are young gay men who prefer to stay outside of gay politics and the gay community feeble assimilationists, and likely self-hating?

As a Gen Xer, my views on all these debates are, predictably, somewhere in the middle.

But first, what does post-gay mean?  According to the Urban dictionary:

The notion that homosexuals should be able to define their identities by something other than sexual preference.

OK.   Doesn’t sound so new, or terrible for that matter.   This is the Urban Dictionary, after all, so I’ll even forgive the specious, antiquated terminology like “homosexual” and “sexual preference.”   I believe people should be able to identify however they want, and if a young man sees his gayness as secondary or tertiary to say…being an artist…or being Black…or having an eclectic mix on his iPod…that seems perfectly reasonable.

The problem I see with the term post-gay—-which is the same problem I see with “post-racial” or “post-feminist”—-is it seems to imply putting something in the past, as though certain experiences, histories, or I guess identities are no longer important or relevant.

I could but won’t argue the relevancy issue, since I think it’s pretty obvious.   Instead, I’ll frame the post-gay debate in the context of our broader post-identity culture (which is not the sole creation of Gen Y).

We live in a world where becoming skin color “blind” is considered to be a state of enlightenment.   Our most visible female politicians may invoke sexism when their qualifications are questioned, but their platforms say nothing about promoting the status of women.   It makes sense that many gay men are gravitating toward “neutral” identities that make navigating the decreasingly identity-conscious, decreasingly community-conscious world easier.   It’s not precisely assimilation, I don’t think, or social conformity.   It’s more about individualism trumping group identity.

There’s something sad in that, but every generation has demanded the right to identify on its own terms, not just to spite their older detractors, but because that’s how we find ourselves in the world.

At 18, I was a retro Dead Head.   Five years later I was a gay-liberationist graduate student in Doc Martens.   At 41, I’m a gay writer slash social worker cum humanist-atheist cum social justice enthusiast.   Maybe our identities get longer the older we get.   I’d never use the label post-gay.   Maybe gay-plus.

andrewjpeterswrites.com goes dark next week due to vacation!!

 

Gregory Maguire’s The Next Queen of Heaven

Showing how far behind I’ve gotten in my reading, I just finished Gregory Maguire’s late 2009 release The Next Queen of Heaven.

If you’ve poked around my site, you know Maguire is a literary hero of mine (maybe you noticed a particular sidebar icon).   My appreciation for Maguire is manifold:   his intricately re-imagined fairytale worlds, and the sly twists therein; his sense of humor—a winning combination of absurdity and crotchitiness; and his expert rendering of hapless anti-heroes.

The Next Queen of Heaven has all of these peculiarities to recommend it.   Even as a departure from Maguire’s retold fairytale stock, there’s still a backdrop of magic and myth, vis-a-vis the Virgin Mary and the simmering possibility of another Christmas “miracle” in the works.

A little synopsis:   40-something, thrice divorced Leontina Scales is desperately concerned about her 18-year-old daughter Tabitha, a foul-mouthed, intractable, near drop-out high school senior with a knack for sleeping around with small town losers.   So Leontina stages a paradoxical intervention.   She’ll show Tabitha the error of her ways by shaming her with a strong dose of bad behavior.   But the plan is thwarted when Leontina gets accidentally hit over the head by a falling Virgin Mary statuette, rendering her aphasic and unable to care for herself (or, maybe it was all part of her plan).

Not a bad premise, and combined with the setting—the marginal upstate New York town of “Thebes,” that’s inching toward Y2K with angsty superstition—things start off with plenty of quirky narrative drive.

I laughed out loud quite a bit while reading, particularly during Tabitha’s wry, fatalistic observations, and a hilarious Christmas pageant scene that is some of Maguire’s best literary humor ever.

In a sense, he’s freer to take things to extremes with an original story.   And, at the same time, there’s an added relatability to his contemporary characters.   Passages about Tabitha’s discovery of sexual pleasure, with the local bad news-heartthrob Caleb, are haltingly vivid (not graphic).   Brought in later to the story is co-protagonist Jeremy Carr, who can’t break free of a shattered love affair, or the small town Catholic community where his gayness is a dirty secret.  He’s the kind of guy most of us know, or have known.   The denizens of tNQoH’s Thebes are each uniquely handicapped by personal hang-ups, but not meanly so.   Even the homophobes, like Tabitha’s brother Hogan, manage to achieve a measure of redemption in their earnest, if misguided pursuits.

They’re doing the best they can with what life dealt them.

Maguire’s break into contemporary, realistic fiction (realistic applied loosely:::things approach send-up on occasion) is not without its uneven moments, however.   Things start out quick, drag in the middle a bit, then pick up nicely.

It’s an issue of the narrative drive not quite meeting the demands of the subject.   A degree of character floundering by Elphaba in Wicked, or Liir in Son of a Witch, worked well for Maguire’s epically lost heroes, where the scale of personal, even philosophical, discovery was vast.   But in a modern context, where the characters’ problems are “smaller” and more familiar, the meandering character journeys get a little sluggish.

For a good part of the story, Tabitha is on a search for Caleb, who has clearly moved on from their sexually-charged relationship, and I was anxious for her to move on too.   Same thing with Jeremy, who is shown in repeated scenes of passive snits with the guy who dumped him.

A plot diversion in which Jeremy’s gay men’s chorus (actually, a trio) has to negotiate rehearsal space at a neglected convent—the Sisters of Sorrowful Mysteries—provides a clever observation about what gays and nuns have in common in a heteronormative society.   But it doesn’t quite hit the wacky heights of life with the Maunts of the Cloister of Saint Glinda from the Wicked trilogy, of which it is a rather plain derivative; nor does it serve such a critical purpose.

As Maguire’s first work that explicitly deals with modern gay and bisexual men and their troubles, tNQoH treads familiar themes—AIDS, loneliness, estrangement from family—but the delivery is matter-of-fact and ultimately heart-warming.

Tabitha’s younger brother Kirk, the beleaguered “good son” of the family, is immensely charming, and a spot-on portrait of queer coming of age.   The bisexuality of Willem, Jeremy’s old flame, is handled equitably and effectively, forgoing a typical “is he or isn’t he?” debate (or at least, that’s up to the reader to decide).

Everyone, gay or non-gay, is looking to escape something, in most cases the social confines of Thebes itself.   Like much of Maguire’s work, the future of these embattled characters is unclear; but there is hope.   For Jeremy, it comes in an opportunity to get discovered while performing at an AIDS charity concert in New York City.

So, my bottom line:   the journeys here are worth following.  Will sexually-loose, ungoverned Tabitha make something of herself?   Will Jeremy transcend heartbreak and musical mediocrity?   And there’s worthwhile wisdom along the way, i.e. if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get, what you’ve always got.

tNQoH gets my full-on recommendation, even if it doesn’t sustain the engrossing quality of Maguire’s re-imagined subjects, my favorites—Wicked, Son of a Witch, and Confessions of an Ugly Stepsister.

Is Dumb the New Smart?

A little social commentary, a little writerly update this week…

Is Dumb the New Smart?

It’s actually a political/pop culture trend that started under the George W. Bush administration, and the concomitant rise of celebrities like Paris Hilton.

But it reached its zenith with Sarah Palin and her recent commentary on Paul Revere. He made his famous ride, gun in hand, to warn the British:   we Americans have the right to bear arms.   Remember from history class?

Education is passe, intellectual inquiry is for assholes, and everything you needed to know, you learned at Sunday family suppers, between Church and rifle practice.

For a recent pop culture counterpart, see Charlie Sheen.

Writing Brief

In writing news, my manuscript wends its way to a climax and denouement (isn’t that a great word?).   I just finished up a murder scene (mwah, ha, ha, ha).

Excitement is building for Lambda’s 2011 Writers’ Retreat.   I’ve made my flight arrangements and sent in my photo/bio.

Lambda started a listserv for Fellows so we can share transportation and get to know each other.   I’m already amazed (and a bit intimidated) by the list of authors.   Lots of writers to learn from.

 

Randomness

Squeezing in a quick post this week while I’ve been writing around the clock, mainly for work (grant proposal) rather than my own projects (sigh).

I thought I’d just talk about some random things that inspired me this week…

1. Thor, the movie.

I’m usually disappointed by big budget, action/adventure Hollywood films, but Thor was so good, on so many levels.

First level—a fantasy world that is not a thinly veiled allegory for America, at its freedom-loving, platitude-wagging, jingoistic best.   (I love freedom too, but I prefer it with a touch of subtlety).

Second level—a hero who starts off as a (believable) jerk, and ends up as a (believable) hero.   Chris Hemworth plays it just right:   a swaggering, single-minded hunk when he needs to be, and a broken outcast, later, who quickly gets himself back on track.   Bravo.

Third level—Natalie Portman.   There is no role too cliche or doofy that she can’t make work.

2. An Archie comics character comes out.

I haven’t read the series since, erm, 1985, but I’m feeling the joy.   Positive LGBT media representations!!

3. Beta readers.

Just got myself a new one and—wow—she’s good.   Not all writers are good critiquers, and the opposite is true as well.   But this new online friend (I can’t reveal her name because she’s shy) really made my week with incredible, thoughtful feedback on a short story I’m getting ready to submit.   Thank you (you know who you are).

4. French Open Tennis.

The most obscure Grand Slam event is also, kinda, my favorite.   Because it’s an underdog kind of event, and it’s weird playing on clay, and there’s longer rallies, and spins, and strategy, and it takes place in Paris for chrissake!

This year it’s an open field on the women’s side, and, arguably, up for grabs between the top three seeded men. And two of my favorite longshot female players are still in the draw: Marion Bartoli and Li Na. Awesome.